混沌的一星期

这个星期一直在下雨。没完没了地下。现在还在下着。这个周末又这样过去了，自从上班以来，生活变得越来越routine了。不知是好事还是坏事。现在一切都忙完了，坐在这里写blog。这个周末又把家布置了一下，把电脑搬到客厅里来了，这样我每次用电脑时就不会觉得是在工作了。坐在沙发上还是比较舒服，就是时间长了脖子会酸。可是好像这样多了点家的感觉。

晚上去超市，本来不打算去，可是发现没有零食吃了，虽然现在是在减肥，但是每天早9点和下午3点都要吃零食，这样正餐时就不会吃得很多。当然零食不会是热量很高的食物。今晚在wal-mart里看到了Kashi的东西，一直在杂志里看到它的广告，说是全天然的，而且味道很好，没有任何人工添加剂。所以今晚我就买了2盒snack bar, 2盒cereal和1盒小饼干，看看到底好吃不好吃。

我对亚洲的明星从来不感冒，从来也没迷过谁，觉得大家都不错嘛，也没什么好迷的。最爱听陶喆和蔡健雅的歌，而他们俩哪个长得都不好看。今天在搜狐上看新闻，看到一个叫范冰冰的这张照片，哇，很美。

another week passed just like this. oh well, 5 more days to go.

你听过老狼的 “昨天今天”么?我刚才在听.

当爱过的人又再出现

你是否会回到我身边

电话那边流着我的眼泪

你也知道那是为了谁

时间带走的日子会相信

我所交给你的心

过去的温柔让我颤抖

我还想着从此以后

是谁遇见谁是谁爱上谁

我们早已说不清

是谁离开谁是谁想着谁

你曾经给我安慰

写在心里的话也会改变

是曾经躲避的誓言

昨天不懂的事又会重来

你的心是否依然在

别在意今天能不能永远

想我的时候不会孤单

散开的头发遮住了肩膀

你的心是否和我一样

完.

10 Ways to Grow New Muscle

Recently I’ve been exercising a lot more and trying to lose some weight, hopefully by the time my girlfriend gets back from Malaysia I will be back to my ideal size. So far I’ve lost 12 pounds, still going.

Ran into this article on MSN, kinda cool. You can check it out when you have time.

New MSN.com

Do you like the new MSN.com? Looks OK to me, but it is a lot more streamlined than before.

Friend

What is the definition of “Friend”? Do you know? I bet everyone knows yet everyone has its own definition. I have been wondering about this these days, wondering how I should define my own friend.

Well, I looked it in Wikipedia and it redirected me to the word “Friendship”:

Friendship is a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other’s company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.

Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:

• The tendency to desire what is best for each other.
• Sympathy and empathy.
• Honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth.
• Mutual understanding.

It is often considered that a true friend is capable of deep feelings, which may be inexpressible, except in times of great trouble, when they come to one’s aid.

In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than acquaintanceship, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and acquaintances. For many people, friendship and acquaintanceship lie along the same continuum.

The principal disciplines studying friendship are sociology, anthropology and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social psychology, social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles.

Very good definition, then I looked it up in Merriam-Webster Dictionary, it defines Friend as:

Main Entry: friend
Pronunciation: ‘frend
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English frend, from Old English frEond; akin to Old High German friunt friend, Old English frEon to love, frEo free
1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem b : ACQUAINTANCE
2 a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3 : one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
4 : a favored companion
5 capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war — called also Quaker
- friend·less /’fren(d)-l&s/ adjective
- friend·less·ness noun
- be friends with : to have a friendship or friendly relationship with
- make friends with : to establish a friendship or friendly relations with

Let’s see who are my friends:

1. The tendency to desire what is best for each other.

I honestly wish what is best for almost everyone I know, except a few that really get on my nerves, but I do wish them the best sometimes, if not always.

2. Sympathy and empathy.

This narrows it down to less than 20 people (Not including my girlfriend, parents and relatives).

3. Honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth.

I am generally honest, but in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, I tend to avoid the situation. Very few times I spoke the truth that hurts, which means I must have very few true friends.

4. Mutual understanding.

I try my best to understand other people, and try to walk in their shoes and see how it felt. However this is easier said than done. Many times, I mean many times I found myself being selfish and inconsiderate.

Of course I can only answer those questions from my perspective, my “friends” have to answer those on their part as well to match up, in order to determine who is truly my “Friend”.

Maybe I’ll send out a survey and see how the result turns out.

A New RSS Reader

Not sure if you use a RSS reader, but if you write blogs, you’d better learn about what RSS is. For a better definition, you can go to Wikipedia.

Let me give you a simple example, say you have 10 friends that write blogs. How long would it take you to go to their sites and read their blogs? How do you know who has updated their blogs and who hasn’t without going to their site? If this seems impossible for you, then you might wanna get to know what RSS is.

Well, you can imagine your blog as a radio station, and the RSS is the radio wave. It publishes the content you wrote and send them out. For someone to be able to listen to the radio station, they’ll need a radio. That is a RSS Reader. The RSS feed also has an address, which tells the reader where to look for. With a RSS Reader, the contents of blogs come to you, rather than you go to various sites and look for them. As you can see, it saves you A LOT of time.

After you learn all about RSS, I got 2 suggestions for you on RSS Readers. There are a lot of choices out there, but I like RSS Bandit and Feedreader the best. Both are free.